Carol Elizabeth-Ann 's posts with tag: sex
Something about her that I can't just forget...... Import.flv (8.2 MB)
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| | Singaporean men are considerate, generous and yet, stupid. Such was the conclusion of a former Geylang sex worker, when she revealed her thoughts and feelings about working in Singapore's red light district. The 36-year-old woman, who is not identified, says she is from Hunan, China, had personally delivered an open letter to Lianhe Wanbao. It was featured on the Chinese evening daily's front page yesterday. The letter was titled: The Men and Women of Geylang. She observes in her letter that the attractive Geylang streetwalkers attract men's attention, and Singaporean drivers like to pass by Geylang to ogle at the scene. She also notes that while Singaporean men are generally lowly-educated and not very rich, they know how to maintain themselves, are polite and well-mannered. The woman was dressed simply in a white shirt and shorts, with light makeup and slightly permed hair. She had a calm, quiet manner, and spoke with a gentle tone to the Lianhe Wanbao reporter. She said she wanted to chronicle her four months working as a sex worker before returning to China. Having spent time here in Singapore, she claims that she had feelings for the country and the letter included her thoughts and reflections as well as her personal experiences in Geylang. She even had thoughts of settling down with a local man, but decided against it because Singaporean men were naive and fell easily for the charms of streetwalkers. The woman claimed that she turned to vice after she could not find work here. She said she used to own a factory in Hunan, but encountered difficulty after her husband was sentenced to 15 years' jail for corruption in China. She became a taxi driver to support her family, but was involved in an accident and had to pay compensation of about $20,000. But she had felt ashamed initially about becoming a sex worker. But after her 11-year-old son in China asked if she had found a job, she felt so sad that she decided to cast aside her pride. In the letter, which took her a week to complete, she penned her thoughts about the men who are her clients. "No matter how well you treat these streetwalkers, they will always see you as a fool. When you sympathise with them, you will definitely offer them money to support them. But behind your backs, they call you stupid and laugh at how they have just conned you of your money." Working from 8pm to 7am every day, she would get 7 to 8 customers on a good night, and charged $40 to $50 per session. Customers would give tips occasionally too. In a month she can earn $3,000 to $4,000. But she stressed that she was not proud of how she earned her keep. She had a word of advise for her clients, who come from all walks of life: "Don't spend all your money in a moment of lust, because you have also worked very hard for it. You are not only hurting your health, but also your wallet. You are also putting your family's harmony at risk." Source: http://justwoman.asiaone.com/Just+Woman/News/Women+In+The+News/Story/A1Story20071029-32859.html |
MEN NEVER LISTEN!!!!!!!!
In a Chicago hospital, a gentleman had made several attempts to get into the men's restroom, but it had always been occupied.
A nurse noticed his predicament. " Sir", she said " You may use the ladies room if you promise not to touch any of the buttons on the wall."
He did what he needed to, and as he sat there he noticed the buttons he had promised not to touch. Each button was identified by letters: WW, WA , PP, and a red one labeled ATR. Who would know if he touched them?
He couldn't resist. He pushed WW. Warm water was sprayed gently upon his bottom. What a nice feeling, he thought. Men's restrooms don't have nice things like this.
Anticipating greater pleasure, he pushed the WA button. Warm air replaced the warm water, gently drying his underside. When this stopped, he pushed the PP button.
A large powder puff caressed his bottom adding a fragile scent of spring flower to this unbelievable pleasure. The ladies restroom was more than a restroom, it is tender loving pleasure.
When the powder puff completed its pleasure, he couldn't wait to push the ATR button which he knew would be supreme ecstasy. He was immediately knocked out by an excruciating pain.
Next thing he knew he opened his eyes, he was in a hospital bed, and a nurse was staring down at him.
"What happened?" he exclaimed. "The last thing I remember was pushing the ATR button." ATR is an Automatic Tampon Remover. Your testicles is are now in this jar, sir."
Oh man! Both are my idols and they danced so beautifully! Import.flv (10.1 MB)
Baby, It's so wonderful to meet you. I'll hold you close to my heart..
SOMEONE LIKE YOU ~ Van Morrison
I've been searching a long time
For someone exactly like you
I've been travelling all around the world
Waiting for you to come through.
Someone like you makes it all worth while
Someone like you keeps me satisfied.
Someone exactly like you.
I've been travellin a hard road
Lookin for someone exactly like you
I've been carryin my heavy load
Waiting for the light to come shining through.
Someone like you makes it all worth while
Someone like you keeps me satisfied.
Someone exactly like you.
I've been doin some soul searching
To find out where youre at
I've been up and down the highway
In all kinds of foreign lands
Someone like you... etc.
I've been all around the world
Marching to the beat of a different drum.
But just lately I have realised
The best is yet to come.
Someone like you... etc.
"Ich liebe dich auch!"
Good VS Bad Kissing 
A bad kisser, no matter how bad he is, how much drool he tries to share with you, how much tongue he shoves in your mouth, seems to be always thinking "When can I move to second base? And third? And fourth? Is she turned on yet? Can I put my hand on her breast now?".
A bad kisser sees kissing as just a step towards getting to the bedroom.
A good kisser, however, sees the kiss not as a step, but as the destination! A good kisser kisses like he never wants to do anything else with you.
He kisses like he wants this kiss to last forever. He kisses like he wants to savour every single moment of this kiss.
What sort of kisser are you?
Are you a good kisser? - A quick and easy quiz to help you determine if your kissing style is magical or all wet
What sort of kisser are you? - Take the test to find out!
Blogthings - What kind of kisser are you? - Another quiz to determine your kissing style.
Source: www.crush.com/kissing-tips/good-bad-kisser.htm
 I just love these two songs.| Let it Will Be (Paper Faces Mix) | | Sorry CDM | | Madonna | | | Madonna - Erotica (Sex remix) | | | | Madonna | |
First of all, if you are 'white guy' reading this blog entry, please do not feel offended in any way as I am just having an open discussion with my fellow 'yellow & brown' people.
To white chicks, please don't feel offended in any way. Of course you all have the right to protect your men. And I am very very sorry if whatever I'm about to say here, giving you an upset stomach...or wuteva!
And again with all due respects, you are always close in our hearts as someone who's have contributed to the growth of businesses in companies, infrastructure developments, latest technology, scientific researches and you are in our mind as someone who is "tall, handsome, speak eloquently, smart, driving fast car, as adventurous as Tom Cruise and as sexy as Brad Pitt....etc.
And I love all you 'white guys' for being so open-minded in all aspect of relationship. And 'YES", I know we all love sex. But I beg to differ, I will rephrase my statement to '”We all love quality sex'. Whether it is 'quality' sex with a bitch you picked up at the bar, or with your girlfriend or with your wife. It's individual's preference. It is also very much depend on how you define 'Quality Sex'. Some people call it 'making love'.
I was asking my friends in my MSN list if I should date a Caucasian guy today because I got to know a few cute guys lately. Now, please do not mistake me for another 'SPG' or 'Sarong Party Girl', a term very popular in Singapore. It refers to an Asian woman who love to party with white guys.
I have never dated a white guy because I find them hard to get along with. Although they are very supportive, they are fun, adventurous and smart.. I cannot accept when they think we (Asian women) be with them because they have big penis. Now that really pisses me off!!
He actually asked me this, "Do you like big penis?"
I answered, "No ...."
(Of course I was lying, who doesn't want big penis huh? Girls?? But what's the point of having a big penis that rules your pants and your head and your brain and make you talk like shit mother fucker??)
Then he answered, "Then don't date white guy".
With all due respect, I answered , "Thx".
And mind you, this 'white guy' is working as a pilot and his girlfriend is a Thai woman. He always boasts about how he fucked her at the beach while there are other people around. How he can make her cum so easily. *middle finger* I pity that Thai woman..
So yeah... you may be earning more monies than our Asian men (in certain job designations), you may be looking 10 times more handsome in that Ray-Ban sunglasses, and you may look 20 times better than Asian men in those tuxedoes, but that doesn't mean our Asian men are less attractive in any way, compared to you.
Asian men, do not get hyped up with what I'm saying here. I equally have 'issues' with you. But If I complained about the 'white guy' and then the 'yellow guy', it makes me a sick puppy. I will end up sounding like a sick person that needs help instead... now fuck that!
You may think I am a mad woman (go ahead, say wuteva you want).
I may date a white guy one day (as long as he does not worship his penis). Or maybe an Indian (T&C applies), or perhaps a Malay guy just for a change (although I know my dad will scream at me like an opera singer).
Again, I know not all of you there are as bad as what I have described. I cannot just black list all because of one sour grape. Or one stupid rotten egg spoiled the whole basket of eggs? (Wuteva!) We all have freedom of speech and will God's grace, make love NOT war!! PEACE!!
Forgive me if I make anyone angry... Amen!
It's Friday the 6th of October 2006 and it is also the mid-autumn festival or " 中秋节".
We have a small get-together in our office. I ordered some KFC and pizzas for the staff. Previous year, we ordered a box of moon cake for everyone, but this year we just have a small party in the office.
I woke up at 3am this morning when a friend sent me a late text message. After a string of replies, I went back to sleep. At 6.30am, I woke up and do some exercises before I went into shower and wash my dirty laundry. I left the house at 8am, dropped by at Coldstorage and bought some soft drinks for the office get-together.
From Monday to Thursday, all 3 persons I supposed to meet didn't make it. All are too busy that they have to cancel the appointment last minute. I'm getting used to it somehow. Morever, it is not uncommon for these 3 people to cancel an appointment last minute or being late. I guess I can't say anything, they have more important things to do - business wise.
In another 2 weeks' time, I will be back in Sarawak. It's a mixed feelings. I don't know how to react actually. I am kind of 'blank'. However, I'm eager to meet my sister and my niece. I want to take pictures of my old kampung house, and maybe take a few snapshots of my dad.
As I was browsing through MySpace's blogs, I saw 'Tila Tequila' made an annoucement that she is starting to celibate for a period of 6 months to 1 year or maybe more. Reason being, she's tired of guys who want to know her because of her fame and not because they really care about her.
Not sure if you guys can see her blog by clicking this URL: http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=41736&blogID=176775234&MyToken=c5a15692-e692-4d0d-b165-53d5a5dd2ce5
Tila Tequila's MySpace Profile URL is: http://www.myspace.com/TilaTequila
I'm just wondering, is this possible? This will require a strong self-determination and discipline. The guys will have to 'co-operate'......... *contemplating*
Very violent and with sexual explicit content!! DON"T WATCH IF YOU ARE A MINOR!! You hear me?? Import.flv (832 KB)
 ESCORT agencies here are going on a recruitment drive in a bid to cash in on the International Monetary Fund (IMF) and World Bank meetings that begin this week.
Advertisements offering short-term jobs have sprung up in various newspapers' classified ads sections, on the Internet and even on the streets over the past few weeks.
Almost all the agencies are looking for women, or 'young, outgoing girls' to be exact. They are generally after Singapore applicants who are in their 20s, tall, 'athletic' and 'confident', but most will accept applications from any Asian women, the ads claim.
The Straits Times called up several agencies listed in the Yellow Pages and asked about job openings. One agency, based in Orchard Towers, was looking for as many as 10 more escorts 'just for the next few weeks'. Most of the other companies are looking for around five more escorts.
A female receptionist at an escort agency located in Lucky Plaza said Singapore women are more in demand than foreigners at the moment, as she thinks locals will be more popular with IMF and World Bank delegates.
This is a reversal of the usual trend, said the owner of another escort agency in Orchard Plaza, who told The Straits Times that foreign women are usually preferred to locals.
'But with the IMF meet in Singapore, we want to recruit more local girls to jazz up the 'Uniquely Singapore' factor among potential clients,' he said.
The agencies said that although they can hire women 18 years old and above, they prefer women in their early 20s as younger women are less knowledgeable.
'New recruits know what the escort industry is all about so they are aware of their duties,' said Ms Venus Lim, who did not want her agency to be named.
New escorts are given some training before they start work. These include tips on how to dress well, lessons on good communication skills and, most importantly, how to smile.
Some agencies even hand out photocopies of media reports about the meetings for their escorts to read, so that they are not completely clueless when they talk to their clients.
The usual going rate for escorts is around $150 to $200 for an hour's work, although that is set to increase to about $200 to $250. Overnight rates usually hover around $1,000.
Agency managers said that escorts are not obliged to offer sexual services, but added that what happens privately between the women and the clients is a private matter.
Prostitution is not illegal in Singapore but soliciting can be punished with a $1,000 fine, and a maximum $2,000 fine and six months' jail for subsequent offences.
Several local agencies are also getting linked up to international escort online directories. Mr Lee Jinkels, the American webmaster of one of these online directories, said in an e-mail message that he had received at least 10 requests in the past month from Singapore agencies asking for their links to be placed on his list of recommendations.
Each agency has to pay about US$200 (S$315) for a listing.
Mr Jinkels said: 'We even have requests from escort agencies in towns near Singapore, such as Johor Baru.'
The anticipated demand for social escorts during this period is also expected to draw a host of freelancers to Singapore.
These women, usually from nearby Asian countries, will most likely hang out at pubs and nightspots scouting for business.
Although some agencies are recruiting escorts, others complained that business had dipped recently as travellers are avoiding Singapore, fearing a shortage of hotel rooms during the IMF-World Bank meet.
While large international meetings such as this one are good for business, these agencies say that demand for their escorts peaks when foreign navies are in town.
'Then, their senior officers often hire our girls,' said Ms Lim. 
 From my observation over the past few weeks, and upon visiting several blogs by others, I have concluded that anything with the tagline 'sex' and 'sexy' tends to get higher hit by viewers.
Hence, although I am against porn and nudity (except artistic nude) in my blog, I will gradually use these two 'main words' for all my blog entries.
You think I am being a nuisance?? I'm just following the trend!!
This is why I hate web cam...not to mention cyber sex..... stupid.... cybersex.wmv (1.1 MB)
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One of the most beautiful martial arts I ever learn....Photos done by Razin.
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The 7 Secrets of Really Great Sex
By Graham Masterton
Reviewed by Melissa Balmer
Copyright © 2005, Seduction Insider. Seduction Tips & Advice for Men.
your own sexual relationships calls for a whole lot of tact, even more determination, and a strong belief in your own sexiness.” – Graham Masterton
A note of caution before I move forward with this review, Masterton’s writing is very graphic, which probably won’t bother any of out male readers, however, it does take some getting use to for those female readers who aren’t use to blunt sexual lingo. The very first Graham Masterton book I ever read was How to Drive Your Man Wild in Bed back in the eighties, and I spent a good deal of the time reading it bright red with embarrassment, in constant fear someone was going to catch me.
But I did learn quite a bit, and the truth is that when it comes to opening a door for people to view their sexuality and the sort of pleasure they can experience, Masterton is a master. So when I became single again and decided I wanted to brush up on my sexual knowledge five years ago I was very pleased to find out the Masterton had written several more books (he’s written over twelve).
Masterton has written most of his books with the female reader in mind (including this one), but I urge male readers to be open to his work as well (including this book) as you’ll find it very enlightening – especially when you read time and time again how so many women are tremendously insecure about their bodies, their sexual allure, and the tremendous fear they have to overcome in order to share with their partners just what they need sexually in order to be satisfied.
Masterton is very clever in how he’s formulated his books and the manner in which he gives advice. As a former Penthouse and Penthouse Forum magazine editor he’s learned the power of the personal testimonial, and that women are far more likely to try something another woman already had the courage to try rather than to do something just because a man wants her to – most especially in regards to sex.
In The 7 Secrets of Really Great Sex you meet all kinds of women, of all ages, from all walks of life who’ve been coached by Masterton on a particular sexual challenge (he’s coached them prior to the writing of the book), who then share with you the reader their particular success stories – and let me tell you, their adventures get wild!
Here’s just a tiny, rather mild example Secret 3: Teasing Time where a woman takes Masterton’s advice to take the initiative to steam up a stale sex life with a long time boyfriend:
“The first afternoon he came home around about four-thirty as usual, and I had the whole scene set up for him. I’d just taken a shower and washed my hair and wrapped it up in a big pink towel. When he came in I was sitting naked on the toilet with my legs wide apart. I had squirted his shaving foam between my legs and I was carefully shaving off my pussy hair.”
Or how about where Masterton advises a new mother to accept and appreciate the part of her body that she felt the least confident about – her breasts:
“Nolan doesn’t work on Wednesdays, so I got up early when he was still asleep. Most mornings our baby sleeps till nine o’clock so I didn’t have to worry about him. I put on my cut off denim shorts and that was all. It felt kind of strange walking around the house bare-breasted because I usually wear a baggy t-shirt or something. But I thought it was pretty sexy. I looked at myself in the mirror in the hallway and I squeezed my breasts and pushed them up a bit with my hands and I thought, Gemma, you have beautiful breasts, let’s make sure that Nolan takes notice of them.”
But this isn’t a book that’s about titillation (though it works on that level too) but rather sexual empowerment through self-exploration and allowing yourself to consider pushing your own sexual envelope. Or as Masterton puts it so succinctly:
“In truth there is only one basic secret of really great sex, although this book will show you seven different ways it can transform your love life.
That secret is for you to take control of your own sexual pleasure. In other words, don’t leave your arousal and satisfaction to anybody else, not even to your husband or your lover. Only you know what you really want out of your sex life...”
Ah, you ask, but what about those of us who aren’t quite sure what the heck we want? Not to worry. This book will spark and inspire you to delve into your own journey of sexual self-discovery. The seven different ways Masterton lays out are:
1.Think Sexy
2.Let Yourself be Sexy
3.Teasing Time
4.Dress to Thrill
5.Devote Yourself to His Delight
6.Play Sexy For Me
7.Boldly Go…to the Final Frontier
8.57 Ways to Have Really Great Sex
I found this passage from this chapter particularly powerful:
“…No matter how much you know about sex and sexual variations, mo matter how much you know about men and how to give them all the pleasure they’re looking for, you won’t be able to take full control of your love life until you’ve completely acknowledged in your won mind how sexy you are and then decided just how sexy you’re prepared to be.
You have extraordinary sexual power. It’s there – every woman has it. It may be deeply inhibited by your upbringing or your education or one or more unhappy sexual experiences in your past, but it’s there. If you can believe that it’s there, if you can start to feel it, you can gradually develop it to its fullest.”
A Secret Women Know But Men Don't
By David DeAngelo
I'd like to tell you a story...
It's a story that you might find strangely familiar. Don't be alarmed.
Once upon a time, there was a man who was very attracted to a particular woman.
At first, she was just another attractive woman... but the more he got to know her, the more he began to feel attracted to her... and the more time he spent with her, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for her.
But there was one problem.
As his emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, he also grew more and more insecure.
Why?
Because he couldn't tell whether or not she felt the same way towards him.
Sometimes she would say things like "You are so important to me" and "I'm glad that you're in my life"... but nothing ever progressed past the "friendship" stage.
There was an occasional hug, an occasional kiss on the cheek from her... and once she even held his hand for a long time while he talked about an emotional issue.
But something was wrong with the picture.
She just wasn't acting like a woman that was "falling in love". She was acting like a friend.
The insecurity that he felt became a spiral that amplified itself... and the more insecure he became, the more afraid he grew of "screwing things up" by kissing her or asking her to be his girlfriend.
Plus, the more insecure he became, the less time she seemed to want to spend with him.
After spending many days and nights obsessing over this girl, the man finally arrived at the conclusion that if she only knew how HE FELT, that she would feel the same way.
So he made a bold move.
He TOLD HER how he was felt.
He confessed that he was in love, and that he would do anything to be with her.
She looked at him with compassion in her eyes and said "Thank you... I really mean that... but I don't want to mess up our friendship... you're too important to me...".
This only confused the man more.
He didn't know how to take it...
Did it mean that she really loved him too, but that she was afraid of something?
Did it mean that she wasn't ready for a long- term relationship?
Did it mean that she didn't love him, but that she was trying to give him a hint?
Did it mean that he hadn't tried hard enough?
Did it mean that he needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let her know how he felt?
He finally decided that he couldn't go on like this anymore... he had to be with her.
He had to make sure that she knew just how much he wanted to be with her... so he took a big step, bought her a symbolic gift, and wrote her a long, long letter... again confessing his feelings.
And then the unthinkable happened.
She didn't reply.
He called her three times a day for almost a week before reaching her.
She made an excuse about being very busy, and said "I'll try to give you a call soon, I have to go"... and hung up...
...but he never got a call back.
Over the following months, the man tried desperately to understand what went wrong... and what happened.
THE END
OK, I'm back.
Now, wasn't that a sweet story?
Heart warming, huh?
I know, I should keep my day job, and not take up writing romance novels...
Now, let's talk about that story.
That story is basically a MYTH.
And I'm not talking about FICTION here.
I'm talking about a story that rings true for a great majority of men. A story that is timeless. A story that resonates at a deep level because you can IDENTIFY with it.
And why does this particular story resonate for most men?
Because we've all been there in one way or another... at one time or another... and many of us have been there OFTEN in our lives.
Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs... as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it reminds us of...
Stories and situations like this one really FASCINATE me.
They fascinate me because I see them as an opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles that they represent.
In this particular situation I think there is a solution.
And it lies in understanding a secret that women know but MEN DON'T.
And that secret comes down to the reality that if a woman isn't ATTRACTED to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him, and court her BACKFIRE.
In other words, they not only DON'T WORK, they actually make things WORSE.
In other words, the very things that a man does to try to make a woman LIKE HIM make her NOT like him. They make her run.
All those great intentions and emotional dedication actual cause the man feeling them to do things that make her go away.
It sucks.
And I hope that by explaining the process of how this happens to you I'll help you avoid this painful situation in your own future...
THE "INSTANT EWWW"
I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't always understand the message that we're communicating to others...
So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message that others are going to NATURALLY understand what we're trying to say.
Have you ever seen a guy in a foreign car that has wheels on it that cost more than the car itself... with his stereo blasting... and a muffler that somehow AMPLIFIES the raw sound of the 4-cylinder motor...?
Have you ever thought to yourself "I don't think that car is communicating the message to women that he thinks it is"...?
Yea, I have too.
Well here's the deal:
If you do something to "let a woman know how you feel"... but she isn't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to backfire.
It's going to trigger a feeling that like to call the "Instant Ewww".
The Instant Ewww is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.
Once a woman feels it, YOU'RE DONE.
It's over.
It's like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.
Once a woman feels the Instant Ewww, she will start behaving differently.
In short, she'll disappear.
So where did I get the concept of the "Instant Ewww"?
I got it from WOMEN.
I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the word "Ewww" when describing how they felt about a guy that was "confessing his love"... of course, these were guys that weren't loved in return.
So what causes the Instant Ewww?
And why would a woman feel it towards a man who was trying to be nice... a guy who was giving her a gift or telling her how he feels?
Because if you think about it from HER perspective, you'll realize that the moment a you do something to "confess", you have created a TURNING POINT in the relationship.
Up until that point, you were harmless.
I mean, women always know how men feel.
She already knew you wanted her.
She knew it from the beginning.
But now that you've started pursuing her and talking about how you feel, you've created a NEGATIVE TENSION that is VERY uncomfortable.
You've triggered an emotion that is repulsive to women. And it does repel them.
In summary...
You can't "make a woman like you" or "change how she feels about you" by doing nice things for her...
Doing "nice" things for a woman who isn't attracted to you HURTS you. It backfires. Worse, it creates the "Instant Ewww" feeling that makes it so she'll NEVER like you.
Men make this mistake over and over again in life because they're doing what MAKES SENSE to them. They're doing it because they don't have an understanding of ATTRACTION.
I mean, If you have a friend, and you like them, and you want to make them like you more... and you do some nice thing for them, they will probably like you more.
On the other hand...
If you have a woman that you "like" in a romantic way, and she doesn't "feel it" for you, and you do something nice for her because you want HER to like you more, it will BACKFIRE... and she will not only NOT like you more, she will most likely distance herself from you.
Guys think that they need to communicate when they like a woman... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting a girl.
In their minds, it goes like this:
Like her>Tell her you like her>She likes you
Well remember... if you follow this pattern yourself with women who aren't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to BACKFIRE.
If she's not into you, then it goes like THIS:
She thinks of you as a friend>You tell her you like her>She gets the "Instant Ewwws" and never wants to be around you again...
THE ANSWER
There are really TWO answers to this problem.
The first answer is what to do if you're in a situation where you like a particular girl, but you don't know if she likes you back.
DON'T GET HEAVY WITH HER.
Don't buy her a big gift and write a love letter...
Don't send her ten dozen roses to her work with a not that says "From your secret admirer".
Don't call her three times a day.
And DON'T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for her.
If you want to know how she feels about you, KISS HER (and use "The Kiss Test" that you learned on my website and in my book).
As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than HER. Use SIGNALS from her to find out how she feels... and if you don't know how to read and create those signals, then LEARN.
Asking a woman if she's interested in your in a romantic way, or if you are "her type" will actually DESTROY the chances that she'll like you.
Really.
The SECOND answer is to not get into this particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it entirely.
And how does one do that?
One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the beginning.
One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why women have the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.
One does that by knowing what you're doing FROM THE BEGINNING.
And what's the best way to learn THAT skill?
I thought you'd never ask...
The very best way to learn how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you is to get yourself a copy of my eBook, Double Your Dating.
I've spent several years now studying the ways that men who are "naturals" communicate using their words, voice tone, and body language that makes them MAGNETIC to women.
And I'll tell you... it's not magic.
You don't have to be rich, handsome, or young.
And you don't have to be LUCKY.
What you DO have to do is LEARN.
It's a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY man can learn it if he wants.
But you're not likely to figure it out by "trial and error". Many of the keys to making women feel ATTRACTION aren't "obvious" at all.
In fact, many of them make no sense... and they're the LAST thing you'd do in a particular situation if you didn't know the SECRETS.
I'm telling you, this book will show you the way. I guarantee that this program will INSTANTLY change how you behave around women.
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They say the hardest part of a pregnancy can be either morning sickness or your hormones. For me, it is morning sickness and the lack of sex.
This was not so for my first time. While the morning sickness was almost as bad, my husband and I could still be intimate up until I was seven months. Pelvic pains and reddish stretch marks (which no amount of olive oil or stretch mark cream could take away) removed my mood completely. Still, it was bearable.
This time around, I had some problems that caused me to bleed whenever we had sex. This was particularly worrying during the first three months but our OBGYNs (a husband-and-wife tag team) assured us that it was simply a matter of what they call 'erosion' (where part of your cervix is exposed due to growth of the baby) and that our baby was fine. They told us we could have sex whenever the bleeding stopped.
The thing was, each time we were intimate, I would start to bleed again. After two times, my husband and I decided that okay, perhaps we should stop having sex until I delivered.
Initially, I thought that would be a difficult thing to do, especially for him. Turns out that it was just as hard for me as well - if not harder.
When I shared this with my girl friends, some of them married but many not, they sniggered and gave me a look as though it were my hormones talking. Perhaps it was, but I also happen to be someone who enjoys sex tremendously. I am comfortable with my body, lard-laden and all, and I have needs, man!
"But you should not do it if it endangers your baby-lah!" said one friend with a hint of disgust, as if I was the most irresponsible, sexually uncontrollable mother in the world.
"You tell me that again when YOU have a baby," I replied.
"Hey, any husband of mine has to waitlah, cannot wait meh?!" she retorted.
"What about you?" I asked. "Don't you have needs?"
"Not me!" was her firm response.
And naturally, a discussion on the possibility of husbands becoming infidel when their wives are with child ensued. To my friends, it was a known fact, despite it never having happened to any of them. I was the closest 'witness' to the allegation since I received many letters about unfaithful husbands, so I was asked to concur. I must admit that the case seems very strong against the men, and I wondered aloud to my husband that evening if he ever felt the need to sleep with another woman just because he did not have sex for a long time.
Predictably, his answer was very quickly placed in the negative.
"Depends on how long though. If you say one, two years, then maybelah," he said.
Now I don't know any couples (and I know quite a few), married or otherwise, who have stopped having sex for a year or more. The longest was about eight months, and the couple has since broken off.
I remember the girl coming to me and lamenting that her boyfriend was not interested in sex anymore. Was he sleeping with someone else, I inquired? She was sure he wasn't since he was still as loving and did not exhibit any extraordinary changes in his lifestyle. He was home every day at 7pm after work and they spent every moment away from work together. He was just not in the mood. For eight months. Thing was, I believed her because I knew her boyfriend for quite a while as well, and he was just not the kind who cheated because he was crazy about her.
Because of this, she ended up cheating on him with two friends. She regrets it of course, but she blames the lack of sex. Eight months was the deal breaker for her.
So my question is this: While a taboo subject for many of us, sex, or the lack of it, is a subject more legitimate than we'd like to think. Of course, I'm talking about intimate sex between two people in love (and not the casual stuff). If this is so, then can you end a relationship because of lack of sex?
Sex for those in love, or those in a marriage, is an act of intimacy and bonding. It is healthy for our bodies and our minds, and of course, our hearts. As such, a low libido is a cause for concern. If we don't make love, how do we continue to love?
If non-consummation can be cause for a marriage to be nullified (if I can remember my family law), can you break up with your mate, without fault or prejudice, because of lack of sex? Each person has his or her ups and downs, so everyone has down time, but what constitutes a reasonable length of down time to make it solid evidence that something is wrong with your relationship? Two months, or two years? If so, how do old couples like our parents (ugh) continue to make it without?
What if your 70-year old husband comes to you for a divorce because you haven't had sex in a decade?
I am happy to report though, that my husband and I have decided to break our little rule a month ago, and after a few 'trials', I am fine, our baby is fine and we're happy. More so because in another month, I'll be in my third trimester and sex then will not only be uncomfortable, but worrying as well.
See, I AM thinking about my baby. But I have to think of me too!
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Capoeira is the Brazilian martial art..its a dance like fight and a fight like dance..very interesting and exciting to look.
The International Capoeira festival also features other folkloric artforms like Macu Lele (which look like the philipines' Escrima..once again look
like dance), Samba dancing and Batucada (percussion performance, Brazilian style).
You can reach Madeira at 9 833 0164.
E-mail: madeira1@singnet.com.sg
Please contact Madeira for tics if you are interested to attend this festival. Tics are available at 25bucks for adults and 15bucks for kids 12yrs and below.
The event will be held at Suntec, Rock Auditorium. 25th September(Saturday) from 4 - 8pm
Its a rare opportunity to witness the Brazilian culture performed by true blue masters in Singapore so hope to hear from you soon.
Peace out.
Madeira de lei
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